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Hatest Analogy EVER

I have decided to be angry today. :mad:

So I will tell you about this analogy which I think is just stupid (x100). And if you’ve ever told it to any of your friends, shame on you! And if your friends have ever said it to you, don’t ever believe them.

I hear this a lot, when people ask others what their opinion is on getting back together with an ex-boy/girlfriend:

Hindi na sinusubo ulit ang niluwa na.

SERIOUSLY. :roll:

I tend to hate analogies (except for maybe mathematical and scientific ones) because I’m just against equating something with another thing, as if they’re the same thing, when they’re really not. (This is probably why I suck at poetry.) Especially when it comes to human relationships. I believe that in relating to people, everything depends on someone’s personality, and experience, and the combination of about a million other things. And so using food that made you nauseated, as a metaphor for an ex-boy/girlfriend, just really doesn’t make sense to me. And I hate it so much because it cheapens the past relationship that you’ve had. So yeah, maybe that past relationship was all kinds of bad, and it would be a mistake to go back to it and go through the same problems and stuff, but I still don’t think it’s fair to say that a person you used to love (and I’m assuming that he/she is someone you used to love, because otherwise why would you want to get back together with him/her?), is just like something you ate that left a bad taste in your mouth. And honestly, if you have to use such disgusting analogies to describe a relationship, it just goes to show how bitter you are. :mad:

Right. Can you tell that I’m angry? It’s not because someone has said this to me personally, though. I just hear it a lot on the radio and from friends’ stories, and now I’m just really annoyed to know that some people actually believe this and agree with it. You can’t, can’t, can’t, can’t ever equate a person with an object. (Or maybe you can, but you really shouldn’t). No matter how bad you think that person is. The worst human being in the world is still a human being.

I’m not saying that it’s okay to be the worst human being in the world. Believe you me, there are a lot of human beings I hate and sometimes wish had never been born, but you know, they’re just people, like you and me, and well, I just don’t think it’s right to think they’re animals or garbage, just because they hurt you.

“These are people, Jane! NOT cows!!” – Eddie, Someone Like You (2001)

Interesting Parallel

Well, it’s interesting to me.

Joseph Gordon-Levitt Kubozuka Yosuke
Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Kubozuka Yosuke

Alright, so they don’t exactly look alike, and I’m obviously trying to force that by choosing pictures where they have the same haircut (or lack thereof), and are both in black and white. But physical appearance aside, I actually thought of these two as similar because of their acting ability.

I have loved loved loved Joseph Gordon-Levitt ever since I saw him. And that is, in a teeny bopper magazine that my sister used to buy. I didn’t even know who he was then, only that he starred in some show called Third Rock from the Sun, which at the time, was not being shown on TV where I’m from. Anyway, it’s because of him that I watched 10 Things I Hate About You (and not Heath Ledger, but he’s cool, too), and Treasure Planet, even though he’s just a voice actor for that one. And of course, 500 Days of Summer would just not have the same impact on me, if they’d used a different actor for Tom Hanson.

With Kubozuka Yosuke, it was different. I first saw him in Onatsuki, his “comeback” film from the alleged suicide attempt (and drug use?), but wasn’t paying too much attention on account of being Edison Chen-crazy. But then I saw him as a kid in GTO, and totally loved him in that one. So I watched more and more of his dramas/movies, and now honestly think that he’s one of the best (if not the best) actors in Japan. I mean, I love the “idols”, e.g. Yamapi, Sorimachi Takashi, etc. but Kubozuke Yosuke is a different breed. He’s one of the real actors, who aren’t just put in j-dramas and movies for screaming fangirls to scream some more. Other examples (in my opinion) of real actors are Tatsuya Fujiwara and Tamaki Hiroshi. :)

Anyway, I just wanted to share what I thought of these two — that Joseph Gordon-Levitt is the Hollywood version of Kubozuka Yosuke, and Kubozuka Yosuke is Japan’s Joseph Gordon-Levitt. Hehe.

P.S. I don’t really know much about their personal lives, so I don’t know if they have similarities there, too, but that’s not really important.

P.P.S. Kubozuka Yosuke is a Taurus. Why Fate, why?!? (Joseph Gordon-Levitt is an Aquarius, just in case you wanted to know. And he’s 2 years younger than KY.)

Well, if it isn’t…

Fate.

I’ve been friends with Fate for a long time now. Of course, some people call it Coincidence. I used to call it that, too. But after so many run-ins with it, I can no longer call events mere coincidences. They’re the work of Fate, I tell you. And as time passes, I’ll probably be mentioning more about it. But for now, let me tell you about my most recent experience related to Fate.

And again, I guess I’m focusing on this because I’m just incapable of tackling serious issues, but anyway…

This all has to do with the National Artist Award. If you still don’t know what the issue on this is, click here.

Right. When I first learned of what happened, it spelled for me, controversy, right away. And I e-mailed my officemates and friends about how it was so unjust to have someone who’s supposedly disqualified from receiving the award actually get the award, and someone who’s clearly not a visual artist get an award for the category of visual art. Sadly, my officemates, being not all that interested in the local art industry, couldn’t really care less, and were more entertained with how I reacted to the issue (almost like a madman, really), rather than the actual issue. Some of them even laughed at me. (And people wonder why I’m anti-social?) Serves me right for thinking people who aren’t privy to the art world, would understand. But that’s the problem, isn’t it?

Maybe GMA didn’t think that enough people cared about things happening the art world, so maybe she thought that giving the wrong people prestigious awards wouldn’t be all that noticeable. Judging from the reactions of my officemates and some of my friends who didn’t even bother listening to me when I told them about it, I guess I’d say that was true. Since only the people who are active in the art industry are the ones who care, the rest just think of them as sour-graping, no matter how valid their protests are. It really makes me sad.

I surprised even myself, when I found myself researching more, reading news articles, blogs, and even trying to look for radio stations that would report on this. I usually avoid the news like the plague so that I wouldn’t have to think about all these problems that our world has, but I don’t know, this thing really got me all riled up. Maybe because the National Artist Award is something that I really used to look up to, even more than the Palanca Award, which is the one specifically for writing (and that’s really the only artsy thing I can do, and I’m not even that good at it). Maybe I’m crazy, but having a lot of friends who are artists, I’ve actually dreamed of them becoming National Artists themselves, because that way, I’d have National Artists friends (Oo, ganoon ako kababaw, hehe). But now, I don’t think I want my friends to receive awards that are given away like that.

Anyway, like I said, I’m really not a very good writer. And someone who is way better at it than me (and than most of us), has written pretty much the same sentiments that I have, so I’ll just redirect you to that blog. I do hope you read it because really, although it may sound somewhat violent, it’s actually unbiased, sticking to the real issue at hand, and comprehensive, too.

Komikero Comics Journal – Gerry Alanguilan

I’m redirecting you to the entire blog instead of just one entry as most of the recent entries are all about this issue.

Ah, but what is the connection of this entry to Fate, you ask? Well, here’s the story:

Earlier today as I was talking with some new friends, one of them, decided to show me the Facebook page of the guy whom she says is “the love of her life”. He happened to be Illac Diaz.

Now, I should note that before this day, I have never heard of Illac Diaz, and really had no idea of who he was. My friend showed me his Facebook pictures, and told me some fangirl stories. Anyway, after some more gossipping about Illac Diaz, we eventually had to say goodbye to each other and go home.

When I got home, I opened my computer to right away check if there were any updates on Gerry Alanguilan’s blog about the National Artist issue. And sure enough there was. It’s this one: Carlo J. Caparas is NOT a Visual Artist

Wait, let me repeat that link, and in all caps:

CARLO J. CAPARAS IS NOT A VISUAL ARTIST

But guess what else was on that entry? It contains a link to a Multiply album of photos from earlier’s protest against the awards. And here’s where Fate steps in: the Multiply album is owned by none other than — Illac Diaz! The very same person my friend told me about just earlier today. And take note: Before today, I had no idea that such a person existed. And now, I find out, not only of his existence, but that he’s on our side with regrd to this National Artist controversy, too!

I know, this seems like a shallow and stupid topic, but it’s really just my way to disguise this entry as something that’s still light, whilst inserting the clues that really, naming Carlo J. Caparas as a National Artist for Visual Art is axiomatically crazy. (Hey look at that! I used a big word! ;) ) I just don’t want to try to be profound and have my arguments countered by someone who’s a lot smarter than I am (and then I will just end up speechless and totally pwned). All I can do is admit to my own limitations: I’m not that smart, but I still know right from wrong. And naming someone who’s NOT a visual artist as a National Artist for Visual Art, is just wrong.

And now, since I’m feeling petty (and shallow, don’t forget shallow), I’ll share something I said earlier that I guess can be considered petty:

Wala talagang konsensya si Carlo J. Caparas, at talagang makapal ang mukha niya kasi walang siyang balak na ibalik ang award na binigay sa kanya. Pero ang ibang paraan lang para maalis sa kanya ‘yung parangal na ‘yun, ‘eh kung bawiin ng pangulo ‘yung award. ‘Eh paano naman mangyayari ‘yun, kung ‘yung pangulo ‘eh lalong mas walang konsensya at lalong mas makapal ang mukha?

A Woman Scorned

The title is probably too dramatic for what I’m going to say in this post. But I can’t think of anything else, so…

Right. Ever eavesdropped on other people’s conversations? I know it’s bad, but it’s fun sometimes. And when the people talking are people who you don’t know and are probably never going to see again (e.g. the other passengers of the jeepney that you’re in), then I don’t think it’s that rude. I  mean, it would be rude if you suddenly talked to them and told them your opinion, but when they’re talking loud enough for everyone to hear, I think you can safely assume that they’re fine with other people hearing their conversation.

And now that that’s justified (hehe), I want to tell you about a conversation I heard from some people in the van that we took from the pier to our resort in Boracay. They were apparently work friends and were talking about another officemate who was getting married that weekend.

Girl A: Today ang kasal niya.
Girl B: Really? ‘Eh may meeting ako sa kanya sa Monday.
Girl A: ‘Yun na nga ‘yung masaklap. Hindi na-approve ‘yung leave niya kasi naka-maternity leave si Ana. So 2 days lang siyang naka-leave tapos dapat matapos na niya lahat ng plans at kung anu-ano. Isipin mo na lang ‘yung stress nun.
Boy: Bakit, nakaka-stress ba ang wedding plans?
Girl A and B: Of course!
Girl A: Ang daming aasikasuhin ‘dun. Tapos ibabalanse mo pa sa trabaho sa office. Sobrang stress! Tapos wala pang leave para mag-honeymoon!
Girl B: Tapos gago pa ‘yung mapapang-asawa!

Girl A and Boy both look at Girl B with wide eyes.

Girl A: Bakit may ganon??
Girl B: Hinde, kunwari lang. ‘Eh ‘di sobrang stress na talaga, diba?
Boy: (softly) Parang may pinanggalingan ‘yun ‘ah…

And here’s another somewhat related one. Although, this happened in a class, so it doesn’t qualify as eavesdropping. I don’t remember why, but for some reason, the professor was talking about the 10 Commandments (it wasn’t a Theology class, and that’s why it’s a bit strange). Anyway…

Professor: Can you give me one example of the 10 Commandments?
Student: Thou shall not commit adultery.

She was right, of course. But think about this: The commandment she said is the 7th, and considering that the others are way shorter and easier to remember (Thou shall not kill, perhaps?), I wonder why it was the first commandment that she thought of.  And she answered pretty quickly, too.

Seriously. People are funny. (And I mean funny, as in “strange”.)

On another note, it’s June 1 today! Summer is officially over and the rainy days have begun. It’s even raining today, just to make it more official. (Although it was raining all day yesterday too so it’s really not that big a deal). I’m not too happy about time moving so fast. It means I’m a few months closer to getting older. Sad sad sad.

And now, a rant from my poor social skills

So, I’m quite sure it’s just me who feels this way, but I don’t get why some people (who claim to be your friends) keep things from their other friends. I’m not talking about secret stuff like, who their crush is, or if they have some kind of medical condition. Those things, I understand, are private (and sometimes embarrassing) so they can only be told to very close friends. But I don’t know what the deal is with some people who keep their other friends from knowing information like the following:

- what he/she ate for lunch
- what movie he/she saw during the weekend
- which family member / friend he/she went with to the beach

I mean, these are information that I don’t think other people benefit from, and aren’t really all that relevant, so why keep them a secret? So I guess you’re asking why it matters to me, when I just said that it’s not relevant information. And that’s true. I mean, I wouldn’t ask those things in particular during a casual conversation, but you know what, it suddenly becomes relevant, when the people that you’re talking to withhold that kind of information.

I don’t know why there has to be conversations like these:

Friday Afternoon
Friend1: Hey happy weekend! Do you have any plans?
Friend2: Not really.

Monday Morning
Friend1: Hey! How was your weekend?
Friend2: Fine. Pretty uneventful.
Friend3 (to Friend2): Hey! It was great hanging out with you at the beach last Saturday! (leaves)
Friend1: Oh, you went to the beach? Where? Is it a good place?
Friend2: (shrugs) It’s fine.

Seriously, what’s with the secrecy?!? Now, I know I’m not supposed to know everything. People are entitled to their privacy and I’m fine with not knowing everything. But when I suddenly find out things that were kept from me, that I don’t think shouldn’t have been kept simply because they’re not really things that I would’ve even cared about, suddenly, I feel a bit offended. I mean, why not just tell me? I’m not going to sell the information (not that I could anyway). I’m probably not even going to remember it! But like I said earlier, it suddenly becomes relevant and offensive because it was kept from me, even though it’s not a juicy secret. I mean, why would you keep a secret, what you had for dinner, for pete’s sake?! Not unless you ate an illegally hunted blowfish stolen from a yakuza-owned restaurant (which is very unlikely), I  can’t find any reason why you wouldn’t share the information, especially with someone who is just making small talk anyway, and is actually only asking to be polite (or so as not to have dead air/awkward silences). Okay, so maybe I’m not just asking to be polite, because these people that I talk to are my friends, a lot of times, I am actually interested in what’s going on in their lives. But that in fact makes it even more frustrating, because here I am, trying to be their friend, being interested in the things happening to them, and they’re being all “private”.

I don’t understand it. I’m not asking because I’m a gossip. I don’t tell other people things that they tell me. I’m actually asking them because I care. And I’m not asking things that are too personal. When I feel that people are talking about personal stuff, I don’t pry. I don’t coerce them into telling me their problems and then force my own opinions on them. And I know that I don’t, because I actively stop myself from doing this. I actively keep quiet or let the subject go when the person I’m talking to looks like he/she isn’t liking the conversation.

One of my friends told me that I’m not supposed to understand it and that I should just leave things be. I have no right to demand information from other people, in the same way that I’m not obligated to tell other people the things that I’ve been up to. Fine. I get that. But my point is, I’m not demanding information. I’m not obligating people to tell me what they’re doing every minute. I just feel slightly offended that for some reason, things that they tell their other friends, mundane things like their mother’s name or their favorite song, are kept secret from me, as if they would earn money if they didn’t tell anyone about it. As if I was putting them in a tight spot by asking them what they had for dinner last night, or what they think of the weather, or what new movies are playing in the cinemas…

Honestly, it makes me sad to think that the friends I have don’t feel comfortable telling me things about themselves or sharing with me what’s happening in their lives. I’m not saying that they have to, but the fact that they’re really not, because they really don’t have to, makes me really sad.

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